I Waited For Him For 3 Years Only For Him To Tell Me He Has Married A White Lady: What Do I Do?

There is nothing to do other than moving on with your life. Situations like this are why we are teaching that people should date many people of the opposite sex without sexual intercourse. It is wrong to hang on waiting for a man or girl who is pursuing another thing in their lives more important than getting married to you. It is not right to wait for anybody to finish school, to return from abroad, to finish learning a trade and whatever excuses for which someone would have to hang on to wait while the other party is busy with something else.
The right approach is to keep all your relationships open and only commit at an appropriate time. Moral relationship experts have been shouting on the pages of social media groups and other media that people should date without sexual intercourse. Many people who are cynical are considering it too idealistic and impossible. Well, they say, you do not tell the dumb that war has started.

If you date many people and date some for keeps – that is to say, while not going steady with a person, you can go back to the person and continue the dating at any opportune time, you eschew premarital sex, you would find someone you can love who is ready and marry the person. It is not right to date one person steadily for more than one year. It is not right to propose marriage or be in courtship or engagement when marriage is more than one year away. In fact, when you talk courtship, it should be limited to about six months for finding out and less than six months for preparing for the type of marriage you want.

The situation where you wait for a guy or girl to go finish something and come back for you for years is like hanging yourself up in a dangling rope of uncertainty. Don’t give any man or woman that kind of opportunity over your life. Twala the King, of Ancient Bechuana Land in South Africa taught his soldiers to ‘marry the woman who is present’. That counsel is a great way to save you from pain, sorrow and anguish. The heart of man is cunning. It is not possible to discern it. So, learn this wisdom – when you date and court and your partner had important business he or she has to deal with before he would come back and marry you, both of you should suspend the relationship and maturely agree that if you meet on the other side, you can continue but you should both be free to pursue another life.

How To Keep A Guy Fascinated About You

It is interesting how some women seem to have obvious advantage in thrilling their men than others. It is more interesting to note that some of the ladies who are best at this game are not usually the prettiest around. Most of the time, these are clearly ordinary looking ladies who we obviously believe we have some aces ahead of them. What is it that makes them seem to have all the lead in relationship with their men? These ladies who are able to make their men turn on a spin have one thing in common – they are fascinating. The synonyms of fascinating include charming, attractive, enthralling, mesmerizing, captivating, interesting, absorbing and intriguing.

A lady can earn this status in a man’s heart if she is able to arouse emotional attraction in the man. There are two key attractor factors in the relationship between the sexes. These are physical and emotional. Physical attraction serves a limited purpose – to get the man knocking at your door. If after arrival, a man did not get emotionally attracted to you, there would be no love. This is why in spite of exhilarating sexual intercourse, men quit relationships.

Physical attraction consists of a pretty face, height, sex appeal, etc. Emotional attraction consists of feeling of connection, friendship, love, etc. While you are born with the elements of physical attraction, the qualities that create emotional attraction are both innate and enhanced over a period of time.

Here are a few things you can do during a relationship to build emotional attraction and keep your man fascinated throughout the relationship:

• Have a life of your own – It is common to see ladies lose themselves in a relationship to the extent that all their peace and joy become dependent on how that relationship worked out. It happens most when a lady feels that she has a great man around her. This is an antithesis to the innate desires of our hearts to be happy. This might appear natural given that the man may actually make you happy. The addictive presence of a great guy is very risky because it quickly leads a lady to begin to think she can’t get by without the man. This leads to yet other wrong moves including attempting to fix the man to fit into what you really want. Instead of depending on the man for your happiness or trying to fix him into a mold, concentrate on your own personal development – read, learn, be aware of trends pertaining to your health, career, social relationships and self-improvement.

• Be yourself – It is better to be first class you than to be second class anybody no matter their height and position. Because someone seems to be more attractive than you is not a good reason to start aping the person. This is because what works for the person you are imitating might not work for you. We are all endowed with special gifts that only you or I can build up on to advantage. What you lack in physical beauty is usually more than compensated in wittiness, smartness or other talents that would distinguish you. To be fascinating, you need to discover what your natural gifts are which you can develop to greater gain.

• Be a listener – Everybody want to be heard. You would be more charming in the mind and heart of a man when he notices that you listen attentively to his conversations and in fact, only interject to prod him on. The best conversationalists are the best listeners. The best people we want to spend time with are usually those who would keenly listen to what we have to say. You would arouse more warmth in the heart of a man if he knows, feels and sees that you are attentive to him.

• Be creative – You must have heard of such things as creative dating ideas. You can extend this to creative courtship and marriage ideas. Think about your relationship and be clear of what you want out of it and start creating that objective, the ways leading to it, activities that would enhance the possibility of attaining your goal.

• Be fun to be with – Men go into a relationship with the anticipation that it would be fun. They like action and thrills of the chase. They like it best when the woman is not easy to get. The natural mystery that surrounds women is one of the enticing elements in a man’s make up. If you are predictable, easy to decipher, then you would more often than not, lose in the game.

 

The Law Of Attraction In Your Dating And Courtship

The law of attraction states that you attract into your life, opportunities and situations that are in harmony with your dominant thoughts.

The law of attraction has been taught, learned, discussed and practiced since the period of the ancient Egyptian mystery schools. It is still as relevant today as it was then. It is both believed and vilified by people as true and as untrue.

One implication of this law is that everything you have or lack in life has been attracted to you by your thoughts. Both from the scriptures and other sources, we learn, as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he. Our personal experiences show for example that each that we are troubled or anxious, the more fearful or evil thoughts that pass through our mind, the more unhappy we become.

This position is weighty in the sense that so many things pass through our mind every moment of the day. Some of them are beautiful thoughts, others are ugly thoughts.

Some are wicked thoughts, fearful thoughts and some of the times, thoughts of courage, thoughts of love and peace.

Another implication of this law is that you can change your present circumstance by changing the way you think. If your dominant thoughts have been thoughts of wickedness and fear, you can change those to thoughts of love and courage.

The law of attraction work in relationships as it does in other situations of life. Dating, courtship and marriage relationships will grow, be stunted, diminish or disintegrate according to the dominant thought of those involved. People in relationships wishes their relationships is flowing, growing and glowing. However, the real result that would be obtained would not be determined by the wishes but by the dominant thought. There is a popular saying in personal development which describes the situation here. It is that while people wish positive, they end up thinking negative.

Many meet a potential date or spouse and the desire for a joyful relationship is aroused. However, fear of losing out sets in. As this fear of losing out dominates your thinking, you create a thought form that is broadcast all over the atmosphere announcing that what you really want is to lose out in this game. As a man thinketh, begins to manifest.

We may blame our relationship woes on the other person or a list of one thousand other reasons or circumstances. The truth is that the result we got is the one we told our mind that we wanted through our thinking. We create what happens to us by the way we think.

How To Use This Law – Analyze your current relationship status or condition and see how it agrees with the way you are thinking. Take credit and responsibility for the result, whether good or bad. Decide what you are going to do about it. Look into your life and ask what is in me that is the root of my current results. Presume as a principle that you are the architect of your own life and destiny. Identify and write what changes you need to make in your thinking for the change or improvement you want in your life. Start thinking along that line.

Learn more at my website:http://www.successpublishers.com.ng and get a free eBook – “Wrong Reasons For Getting Married”.

7 Rules Of The Dating Game

It is a well considered opinion that the best approach to dating is to see it as a game.  All games have rules.  From the traditional to the professional games of all shades and colours, rules are at the base of its enjoyment.  The dating game is not left out.  In fact, knowing the dating rules and playing by it is a sine quo non for success in dating.  These dating rules are applicable throughout the season of dating and beyond and would be helpful in sustaining the courtship and marriage relationships that could flow from a dating relationship.  It applies to younger people who are dating for the purpose of socialization as well as the older people who are dating for the purpose of marriage.  These rules also apply to relationships unrelated to dating, courtship and marriage.  Learned and applied on other facets of life would give one the advantage in situations where dealing with other people are involved.

Rule 1: Independence and Sense of Self-worth

Your primary concern in any relationship – regardless of what kind of relationship it is – is to be yourself. This means that you need to know what you want from life and the relationship.  You need to love and respect yourself.  You need to know that you are an individual with potential for the best in life and not be prepared to settle for less.  You might ask yourself these questions before you take up the dating bull by its horns – Who do I think that I am? What do I want from this relationship?  Where are my moral boundaries? How much do I love myself? It would be a great idea to measure your self-esteem and self-confidence levels and ascertain that you are absolutely sure that you could not be confused by veiled seductive signals from the opposite sex.

Rule 2: Be prepared to create and have fun

The base purpose of all games is to create and have fun.  There is no reason the dating game should be otherwise.  When we try to make other people happy, we are happy ourselves.  So, this a rule you can derive its dual benefits with one act.  The law of reciprocity or of giving comes to play here.  If you give, you receive, most times double and ten times over.  The next time, therefore,  you have a date coming, remember this rule and get prepared in your mind on those things you can do to create fun for your partner so that you can also have fun.  The success of any dating effort is rated by how much fun both partners had.  If you deliberately plan and do make your date feel happy while you were out together, the better you feel yourself.  It must be stated here, though, that the fun spoken about here is not fornication – sexual intercourse.

Rule 3: Effective Communication

Effective communication is the bedrock of all relationships whether or not connected to affairs of the heart.  Nowhere is more critical than it is in the affairs of the heart. In fact, during dating and courtship period of every relationship is the time to learn and apply this rule so that one would be wise in it.  In effective communication, you are not only just required to communicate well; you are required to help your partner to understand you.  This could be a thorny challenge in life.  Without effective communication, it would be difficult to find friendship, trust, respect, love, understanding, etc where requisite building blocks of the foundation for joyful relationships are based.  Effective communication is required to build love and intimacy in that relationship.  This is a critical rule.  The Achilles’ heel to this rule is premarital sex.    One of the ways to learn and apply this rule is to ask a lot of questions through the meeting.

Rule 4: Be Prepared To Discuss Differences

It is not all the time that your ability to communicate or obey rules would give you a smooth ride in a dating relationship.  There are times that communications breakdown even between two people who may have thought that all is going well with their relationship.  During those stormy seasons in a growing relationship, the ability to calmly discuss the differences is very helpful.  Sometimes it is the only security for the relationship to continue.  To be able to works through these rough waters of relationship, both partners should be able and willing to put all the cards on the table and discuss their differences with respect for each others boundaries and individuality.

Rule 5: Nurture Your Relationship

Every dating relationship and indeed all relationships, be they business, social, intimate and even the ultimate, marriage, need to be nurtured to keep going.

Constant appreciation, value, consideration, reciprocity and thoughtfulness all help in showing each partner that he/she is cherished and valued and gives them a feeling  that they have a place in your life. It must be stated though that these does not include sexual favors. In fact, premarital sex would harm the relationship badly.

Rule 6:  Avoid Premarital Sex

There many reasons why you should avoid premarital sex.  If that does not appeal to you, it would be wise to note that it is a breaking of the rule of the game of dating to have sexual intercourse during dating.  The only sexual intercourse is acceptable in human relationships is in lawful and legal wedlock.  Premarital sex would take away the opportunity to build friendship and trust which are critical for the future development of the relationship to courtship and marriage.  Premarital sex scuttles the ability of couples to learn and apply effective communication.

Rule 7:  Ask the most important questions on the first date

This is critical especially if you are dating for the purpose of marriage.  Some people believe it would have been better if the critical questions like family finance, how many children, extended family, demographics, sex, religion, should be asked after the dating relationship has advanced far and may into courtship.  On the contrary, it best to trash the thorny issues first.  If for example you are dating for marriage, is there any reason to waste several months with a man or woman whose financial plan, religion, demographics, number of children, sex and extended family ideas are at variance with yours.  You can trash these issues on the first date and that would help you know whether you should see the person again.

6 Ways To Test Your Relationship For Love

The relationship between the sexes has always been a make or mar venture in all generations of mankind.  This particular relationship has been known to build people up or tear them down.  It has built cities, it has destroyed nations.  It has been the cause or has led to several wars in the course of the history of man.  It is has brought joys and blessings and has also been responsible for the ruin of men and women, trauma, heartache, pain, anguish.  Yet, it is the relationship between men and women that produces the best of all meaning to life and the blessings thereof.

There are processes and proven strategies for conducting the relationship between men and women to ensure that it fills the end of its creation.  It starts with the foundation for joyful relationships.  The foundational elements of joyful relationships include knowledge and skill in the practice of the following qualities:

• Friendship
• Mutual respect
• Trust
• Faith in God
• Clarity of Purpose
• Virtue
• Integrity
• Honor
• Love
• Communication
• Understanding
• Independence
• Forgiveness

As you start the dating processes with these foundational elements, the relationship would make progress towards courtship.  During the dating processes, people are expected to make efforts to meet several prospective partners for study and possibility of building an emotional connection.  As soon as the possibility of emotional connection is considered, then it would be a wise time to move your relationship to courtship level.  At this point, the relationship is narrowed to two people who could now get into more details of knowing one another with marriage consideration.

How do you know if your courtship partner is the right one for you?  How can one know if the person you are seeing is the one person to be your spouse?  The following six test questions which in turn are a pairing of the above elements into 6 groups would help all those genuinely seeking for a life partners to do so with a reasonable assurance of love between them.

These are:

• Friendship and trust – Do you trust your boyfriend or girlfriend completely? Do you admire your partner for who he or she is without desiring to change him or her? Do you enjoy different activities together or do your time together typical gyrate around physical intimacy? Are you free of jealousy or endeavor to control each other’s life?
• Communication – Is your relationship peaceful and devoid of frequent wrangling? When there is disagreement, are you able to work through the issues involved without being abusive of one another.  Can you discuss about anything with your partner?  Your ability to listen to each other with enough patient to understand each other’s point of view is a good way to know if you are communicating effectively.
• Family and friends – Have kept the relationship open to your parents and siblings so that they know about what is going on between you two and are his or her family and siblings also aware of your relationship.  Have you established your family’s opinion of your partner and do you know if they feel he or she is good for you?  Are you open and honest about your relationship without needing to hide certain aspects of from your parents?
• The future – Are you comfortable with the thought of marrying this person without expecting him or her to change into the person you can tolerate? Are you taking your time about marrying this person or are you rushing to get married at a particular time for one reason or the other? Would your date make a great parent? Would you like your children to turn out just like him or her?
• Morality – Has your dating period been morally clean?  Is your relationship free of any sexual pressure, coercion and manipulation either from you or your partner?  Do any of you take any drugs, alcohol or view pornography? Regardless of whether you are a virgin or not, are both of you saving sex for marriage?  Outside mere abstinence from sexual intercourse, can you honestly say your relationship is pure?
• Spirituality – Do you and your partner practice the same faith and go to meetings together?  Has the relationship with this partner helped you to be closer to God? Do you remember each other in your prayers?

Answering these questions honestly will help you know whether your relationship is growing towards love or lust.

 

How To Date Appropriately

One of the main challenges with dating practices nowadays is that young people lack knowledge of what dating is and its purpose.  Even in the advanced cultures where this has been practiced for centuries with parents handing it down to their posterity, there are indications that this important knowledge is either lacking or is being discounted.

For lack of knowledge, my people perish, said the good book.  Nowhere is this word of wisdom more apt than in the dating activities and behaviors of people today.

There is a meaning for dating in the relationship scheme.  Dating has purpose.  There are activities appropriate to dating.  Watching people date today, one sees a prevalence of purposeless dating, meaningless dating and a high proportion of inappropriate activities associated to dating.  This is more worrying as even older adults, people expected to know better, people who have been hurt before, those who should be showing the light, still dating foolishly.  The blundering is so alarming that younger people are now so confused and are asking, “What is dating and how can we date appropriately”? In other words, they are aware that what is going on today in the name of dating is either clearly wrong or appears confusing.

Dating is a beautiful game.  It is also a critical preliminary step to one of the most wonderful experiences of life – the marriage relationship.  As a game, there are rules. Those who would win the game must play by the rules, otherwise, the referee would not only disallow their win, they may also be penalized.

One of the most straight to the point definition of dating is meeting.  The Wikipedia (online encyclopedia) defines dating as a form of courtship, that may include any social activity undertaken by, typically, two persons with the aim of each assessing the other’s suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. The word refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity.

The purpose of dating is extractable from its meaning to meet someone of the opposite sex with the aim of assessing the other person’s suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse.  So we can take from the Wikipedia purpose-laden definition the fact that dating is only a form of courtship.  It is not marriage.  Love is not involved.  It is a get to know you meeting.

At the core of the dating is socialization.  Relationships usually involve more than one person.  The world is created for men and women.  There are also charges from the Creator to keep one another company and to multiply and replenish the earth.  The male and female genders grow up to find that they are different from each other.  The first impulse of man is to be shy of unfamiliar presence.  Dating is the ice breaker in getting the men and women to begin their relationship journey to be able to provide companionship and do the work of procreation as commanded by the Creator.

From the definition, we can also establish what we need to be doing during dating.  The appropriate dating activities include meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity. Again, the activities recommended for dating has ouster clause for the commonly observed inappropriate dating activities of today such as sexual intercourse, kissing, necking, and lavish spending especially on the girl.  Some girls and women also engage in lavish spending most times to their detriment as the men usually feel emasculated by having the women pay their bills.  This is the case even for gold-digging men in relationships with their victims.

Even by the Wikipedia definition which is considerably generous in allowances, there is still no connection with sex in dating.  There is no love mentioned.  There is no need to pressure a girl or a boy to have sex as a proof of love or anything for that matter.

Some mutually agreeable social activities that can be engaged during dating include but not limited to the following:

• Attending religious activities together where it is allowed in your religion
• Attending combined young men and young men mutual together
• Attending school classes, activities and programmes together
• Having dinner at home if residing with parents (if not residing with parents, please eat together public restaurants and anybody can pay the bill)
• Attending public events together (young single adult conferences, etc)
• Do more group dating
• Do not stay alone together
• Keep talking while on a date (if you stop talking and still remain together, you will start feeling and may find yourselves in awkward situations.)
• Ask questions about everything – marriage, family, number of children, extended family, cities and countries where you would like to settle, finance, work, schooling for children, etc.  Asking questions would make you appear witty and interesting.

A date is not even your friend.  When you become friends with a date, a courtship might be considered.

Reasons To Avoid Premarital Sex

Sexual intercourse is one of the most amazing experiences of life. It is a great tool that bonds couples. Powerful as sexual intimacy may be, though, it also has serious destructive capacity. The destructive impact of sexual intercourse is prominent in the realm of premarital sex.  Casual daters may feel all right to have sex even on the first date. But for those who are looking for a meaningful relationship that is lasting, premarital sex is starting your relationship off on the wrong footing and faulty foundation.

Many dating partners have tried to grow their relationship on the wrong notion that sexual intercourse is love.  Nothing can be further from the truth.  Love is as far apart from sexual intercourse as love and hate is opposite of each other.  You do not need love to get sex and you do not need sex to get love.  Many gullible girls and sometimes boys have been cajoled, intimidated or deceived into believing that sexual intercourse is the same as love. Sexual intercourse and premarital sex is even called love-making. It may interest you to know that sexual intercourse is not even a sign of love.

There is nothing shameful about love.  Love is a noble act wherever and whenever it is exhibited, given or received.  Sexual intercourse on the other hand is only worthy in a legal and lawful marriage relationship.  It is a shame filled act outside marriage, even for those who try to feel or state otherwise.  The bonding effect of sexual intercourse is not possible outside marriage.  The experiences of many clearly point to this conclusion.

There are many other reasons why you should avoid premarital sex.  These include but not limited to the following:

• Premarital sex reduces the value of the relationship – building a relationship with opposite sex is a delicate business. The effort requires consistent focus on the building of the foundational elements such as friendship, trust, understanding, etc.  Premarital sex serves as a cog in the wheel of progress of this all important venture. It packages it as being cheap and the only reason the relationship was contracted in the first place. Sexual intercourse is one of the worst reasons for being in any relationship.  Sexual intercourse no matter how thrilling cannot enhance or sustain a relationship.  In fact, in most cases, premarital scuttles a relationships and destroys the possibility of it becoming meaningful.

• Premarital sex denies dating or courtship partners the chance of properly studying their different background – dating and courtship are special periods in the relationship between the sexes.  It is the period when both have opportunity to know the real stuff each is made of.  At the initial stage of the male-female relationship, there are pretended courtesies and formalities intended to create impressions.  But as the dating relationship progresses, it is possible for the observant dater to know the stuff each other is made of so that issues of compatibility could be settled.  The moment, however, premarital sex gets in the way, studying gives way to feeling and all learning abilities vanish.  One of the things that could warn those who are involved in premarital sex that their studying opportunity has been short-circuited is the fact that each meeting begins or ends in a sexual intercourse which becomes more and more meaningless each time.  This preponderance usually results from the soul’s yearning to learn about the other person through the sexual act.  Because this is not possible, this is why people date for ridiculous long periods without making up their minds to continue or leave the relationship. In this kind of learning situation, instead of knowing, the parties get confused.

• Premarital sex cheapens the essence of this special gift from God called sexual intimacy –as noted at the onset, sexual intimacy is a beautiful thing within the bonds of matrimony.  According to The Family: A proclamation to the world issued by the First Presidency and Council of the Twelve Apostles of  The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, ‘sexual relationship between a man and a woman legally and lawfully wedded is ordained of God’. The experiences of many who have obtained sexual intimacy outside holy matrimony have shown that they felt cheap, used and foolish.  No matter however arts, literature and other media describe sexual intercourse, the moment of truth which people must go back to after the theatricals are over, has only one bitter truth – those who have engaged in premarital sex have felt the three negative emotions of being cheap, used and foolish and possibly more worst emotions as a result.

The target of dating and courtship partners should be to grow the relationship to focus on the essential qualities a marriage needs to solidify it when it happens.  This is called the foundation for joyful relationships.  Working through this foundation enables dating and courtship partners to take responsibilities for the future they plan together by being able to communicate as two people who are committed to building an eternity together.

The wonderful opportunity to study your partner, know what his or her shortcomings are, understand his or her moods, attitudes as well as strength and weaknesses should not be sacrificed on the altar of sexual aggrandizement which is the only worth of premarital sex.

Francis Nmeribe helps who want get their relationship experiences right at the onset and those who want to recover and rebuild their ailing relationships.  He is the author of four eBooks including “Foundation For Joyful Relationships, Wrong Reasons For Getting Married, Growing From Your Experiences and Action Quotes.  Contact Francis at www.successpublishers.com.ng, http://marryright.wordpress.com. Email: nmeribefrancis@gmail.com, successpublishersng@gmail.com.

How To Make A Girl Consider You For A Second Date

One of the major challenges men face when they meet a girl that they are genuinely interested in seeing again is how to ensure that they could have her for the next date.  This is about the type of girl with the potential of being a real marriage partner.  These kinds of girls are scarce.  This kind of girl is different from the girls who merely want to be out with you for the free food and booze.  Experience has shown that in spite of the dominant position of men in the dating game; when they meet the right woman they are truly frightened about losing her too early to prove their suitability.

If you have ever been in this situation or fear its possibility, here are a few tips you could use to compliment a girl on the first date and keep her expecting your phone call for another dating appointment:

• Look for cues:  Every woman that accepts a dating appointment with a man takes deliberate steps to be ready for the occasion.  When you pick her up, take a good look with a happy and enthusiastic mood around her and observe those areas of her make-up and general turnout that reveal the efforts she has made to be ready for the occasion.  Pick out such areas for praise.  Look out for good manicure or pedicure that begs for recognition and offer it.  These are ready made opportunities to open a conversation and put her in a relaxed mood also.

• Offer real life and genuine praise: If you are going out with an experienced woman who have had several dates previously, such well worn phrases like ‘your hair look nice or great today’ may not excite any reasonable impact.  However, if you could associate her hair, clothing or colour combinations with some beautiful natural experiences, you could have your date glowing and enjoying every moment with you.  Such phrases as ‘your gold and purple combination reminds me of the rising sun’; your smile suits my nerves like a cool breeze by the beach’.

• Make it specific: Vague comments and flattery lack the focused bang of a well prepared open remark.  Such phrases as ‘you have a nice dress’, you have got a cool apartment’, are fine but they do not arouse pride as when you pick a particular feature about your date such as her lips, her nose etc and associate them with something great that is well known like movie stars. Enthusiastic compliments will register you in her hearts, but wishy-washy flattery will get you nowhere.  You can associate her intonation to some beautiful music you like.  Such phrases as “that colour combination look great on you”.  If you had gone to her house to pick her up, you could observe the efforts she made to fix her room.  “You have great taste in colours, fabrics, arts, etc.  Anyone who has taken time to make up her home with objects of arts and of contrasting colours is usually happy to receive these kinds of compliments.  These compliments would also cut you out as one who appreciates style and be a sign of mutual attraction.

As your dating meeting and activity progress, you would have observed more admirable attributes and features.  You could also use the following phrases to keep her feelings rising in your favour:

• “You have the most fascinating eyes, toes, shoulders, hands, back, legs”.  However, beware of going overboard to sexual innuendoes.
• “Being with you really gives me sweet peaceful feelings.”  This kind of phrase helps you express a little of your feelings without coming too strongly.  This could help shy guys who might not be able to muster the courage to say ‘I charmed by you’.
• “A remark about what you feel about her earring or bangle could give you the opportunity to hold her hands or part her hair.”  Be careful, though, not start caressing her or holding the hand for too long as this could lead to uncontrollable emotions leading to premarital sex.  The need to avoid premarital sex is not a religious jargon; it is disruptive of the dating game plan.
• If you had a wonderful or fantastic time with her, why not tell her … “It has been fantastic to be with you today……..”

To your joyful relationship, Francis.

Author’s Bio

If you would like help with your desire to build a joyful dating and marriage relationships, then you should be working with Francis Nmeribe who is a relationship expert and coach, public speaker, personal transformation teacher and author of four eBooks: “Foundation For Joyful Relationships, Growing From Your Experiences, Wrong Reasons For Getting Marriage and Action Quotes”.  He is an EzineArticles.com Expert Author.  Francis also helps people who want to build multiple sources of income and confident self-esteem for the life of their dreams.  Contact Francis now atwww.successpublishers.com.ng, http://marryright.wordpress.com. Email: successpublishersng@gmail.com, nmeribefrancis@gmail.com

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