Hugs and kisses are intimate acts of love and affection. They are used to express love and deep affections between people. In some cultures light kisses involving pecks on the cheek and light lips to lips touches are part of the normal way of greeting people especially close associates and family members.
Hugs and kisses are part of the deep expressions of intimacy appropriate only in a marriage relationship. While a hug may easily pass as an innocent act between two people of the opposite sex, a kiss cannot pass the same test.
In a dating relationship, hugs and kisses are not only inappropriate, they are fraught with the danger of leading you on to more acts of intimacy including fornication, also called premarital sex and rape.
Some of the common questions young people ask about hugs and kisses include:
• How would it be possible to know that someone loves you if you cannot hug and kiss him or her?
• What harm is there in an innocent kiss?
• How can an ordinary hug hurt?
It would interest you to know that hugs and kisses no matter how intimate they are or become as the relationship advances, are not proof of anything in connection to love. A kiss is just a kiss. If it is not related to the culturally mandated greeting, then the only place that it is a worthy act is in marriage. Outside marriage, a kiss barefaced immorality and should be seen as such at all times.
There are lots of harm in a kiss. A kiss is not innocent at anytime. It is either a greeting in some cultural setting or an act of intimacy expressing affection that is only appropriate in a marriage relationship. Outside culture and marriage, a kiss is as dangerous to your relationship and sense of self-worth as is premarital sexual intercourse. This is because, that kiss that appeared innocent to you can easily lead to breaking the law of chastity or even date rape. A kiss is always a premeditated act. It is usually thought of in advance of its occurrence.
An ordinary hug can hurt like fire. It can lead straight to unwanted pregnancy, unplanned marriage, date rape, unplanned sexual act. When you hug in an intimate setting, the contact with the body of the opposite sex sets off some brain activities that discharge the feel good chemicals into your blood stream which immediately loosens up your defences.
On close contact with the body of the opposite sex, the nose of a man picks the smell of the female body which has the capacity to communicate excitement to your brain. Normally you want more. You caress, you squeeze harder. The touch of a man to some parts of the body of a woman puts her on fire and weakens her defences and at the same time causes her to respond in ways that encourage the man to go further.
Women naturally do not go out of their way to want to have sex. They are usually tuned in by small and sometimes innocuous acts that mean different things to her from what the man is reading. Date rapes have occurred because the woman only suddenly realized that they have gone too far at the point where the man could not stop himself again.
So, it is not even appropriate to hug and kiss when dating not to talk of such acts being compulsory.