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Sex and Responsibility 8: Shyness

November 29, 2012

One of the major challenges that face youth age girls is the emergence of their sexuality attributes. This is evidenced by sprouting breasts, pubic and armpit hairs, expanding hips, onset of menstrual flow, etc. Every girl have welcomed these developments with trepidation and where not assisted by kind and attentive parents, especially mothers, that fact alone induces a state of timidity, nervousness and introversion in her.

The preteen and later teenage boys are not spared. The penis and scrotum enlarges, becoming more sensitive to touch or brushing by other parts of the body or tight clothes also introduces the same sensation of shyness in him.

All these weird experiences produce the negative character trait of shyness and some attendant anti-social behaviour that lead the teenage boys and girls to develop poorly. They face the challenge of not being able to fit in the same garb as their peers.

The key for saving these groups is education and support from parents who understand and can lovingly teach the purpose of these growths and developments.

As a girl battles with this emotional turmoil, it is almost as if one is nailing her to a cross when you introduce her to sexual intercourse outside the bounds of legal and lawful matrimony. It would be some wisdom if the men who lure little girls into illicit sexual intercourse could consider that they are destroying the sense of self-worth and confidence of such a girl.

Even when living conditions, poverty or even environmental factors lure a girl into early sexual relationships by her own free will and choice, she loses her honour and sense of worth. She is enveloped by the negative trait of shyness. Most of the girls take to self-destruct habits such as smoking, drinking and other depravities that nail her to perpetual poverty for herself and her offspring which are usually begotten of out of wedlock.

Intrinsically, all out of wedlock sexual intercourse and most especially teenage sexual involvement are clear to those involved as evil or at least a wrong doing. Even when they make strenuous effort to deny it, in those moments of truth when the party is over and all other actors have gone home or to different places, it dawns on all those involved that what they have done is wrong. They are racked emotionally. Sometimes, they understand what is happening to them. Most times, they don’t understand what is tormenting their lives and leading them to the dangerous habits of drinking and smoking and the attendant ill-health condition.

At other times, they battle with the “everybody is doing it” attitude which struggles to justify the act. The justification battle has been known to do more harm than good for them.

Most of the teenage girls grow into angry women who some of the times end up as street women. Their attitude to society is that of enemies – we and them. They see the rest of the society in the light of the man who in his wickedness introduced them to illicit sexual intercourse, or raped them or probably made them pregnant and abandoned them to fend for themselves and their child or even procure illegal abortions that lead to permanent ill-health, childlessness and other harrowing social experiences for them.

In other words, the impact of shyness rooted into sexual activity, especially by teenage girls and even other unmarried persons is very destructive to the individual and to the society at large.
In consequence, anybody engaging in premarital sexual intercourse should consider the ramifications and stop right there. Spare the girl and spare the world of another anguished woman who would start life shying and whose anger might lead to disease spread, deaths and multiplicity of sorrow and pain.

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